Friday, February 8, 2013

November Rain Lyric Review

By JccKeith

I don’t expect you to believe me as it is so shocking but November Rain is not a song about rain.  Not even close.  This is a Guns N Roses song about relationships, or at least one guy’s relationship.

 I looked it up just to be certain because I like to be all thorough like that.  I’m a fact checker.  Sometimes.  When I feel like it.  Or really, if I have time.  Most of the time I just make it up as I go along.  Reality is just easier that way.

Having taken the time to lay it on the line and look it up, I found… nothing interesting.  There were no hard core conspiracy theorists claiming this song is about destroying the government.  No political fanatics claiming it is about politics.  Not even any drug fanatics claiming it is about trippin’.

Nope, not this song.  It’s pretty cut and dry, for the most part.  But we’ll see if I can’t rustle up some deeper meaning from it anyway:

Here are the lyrics, as I found them on the world wide web:

When I look into your eyes I can see a love restrained
[When he looks into her eyes he can tell she’s holding back.  She loves him but she’s not completely surrendering to him]

But darling when I hold you, don’t you know I feel the same, yeah
[When he holds her, he feels the same.  He loves her but he too has some trust issues]

Nothin’ lasts forever and we both know hearts can change
[Nothing in this life is guaranteed and nothing lasts forever.  We both know, probably from experience, that love is fleeting, people fall in and out of love]

And it’s hard to hold a candle in the cold November rain
[Love is often compared to a flame, so the candle represents love and passion for each other.  November rain, as used here and throughout the song, represents not necessarily troubled times as that would be represented by a storm, rather it represents those dull times in a relationship where it is not so passionate and love seems to have gone, you’re bored with each other, you’ve lost that spark, the relationship has reached a plateau and well you get the point.]

We’ve been through this such a long long time
[As I said above, he is talking about a relationship that has been going on for a long time and they have reached that point where it has become too routine and dull and not exciting or enjoyable anymore]

Raindrops Keep Fallin
On Axel's head
Just tryin to kill the pain, ooh yeah
[This could refer to some problems they’ve had in the relationship previously, maybe cheating.  It could also refer to the idea that the relationship has not been easy, they aren’t getting along but they stay together because breaking up is hard to do so they stay together just out of convenience and the desire to not be alone]

But lovers always come and lovers always go
[Lovers are not bound together legally as married couples are.  So lovers come and go much more easily]

An’ no one’s really sure who’s letting go today, walkin away
[When you are just in a relationship rather than in a marriage, there is no guarantee that the person you’re with won’t just up and leave, walk away.  Married people do just up and leave and call it quits but most people feel a marriage is more secure relationship wise.]

And if we take the time to lay it on the line
[I believe he is saying here that if they took the time to get married.  I believe this because in the video for this song, the couple is getting married.  Also the previous lines deal with marriage vs lovers.  Others out there feel he is saying they need to take the time to sit down and talk it out, lay it all on the line trust wise]

I could rest my head just knowin’ that you were mine, all mine
[This is another reason I think it deals with marriage because this line would follow up by saying that if they were married, he could feel secure that she was his and only his.  Others think that he says this because if they had talked it all out, laid everything on the line then he would feel more secure in the relationship]

So if you want to love me then darling don’t refrain
[He could be saying here that if she wants to love him, then marry him.  He could also be saying that if she wants to continue the relationship then she needs to stop holding back.]

Or I’ll just end up walkin in the cold November rain
[This could mean if she doesn’t marry him then he’s done.  This could also mean if she doesn’t stop holding back then he’s done.]

Do you need some time on your own?
[He is asking her if she needs some time to think it over or if she wants to break up, maybe take a break]

Do you need some time all alone?
[same as previous line]

Everybody needs some time on their own
[A basic statement that everyone needs space to think things out.  Everyone should take some time outside of a relationship to figure out what they want and don’t want in a lover or spouse and in a relationship]

Don’t you know you need some time all alone?
[same as previous line]

I know it’s hard to keep an open heart
[It is difficult to trust]

When even friends seem out to harm you
[Even people you thought were friends can hurt you.  When you have been hurt or are going through something, everyone seems out to hurt you.  This could also be a reference to they are a couple going through some stuff and friends are spreading rumors]

But if you could heal the broken heart
[When you get over it, being hurt that is]

Wouldn’t time be out to charm you
[I always thought he said “would in time be out to charm you” because that would make sense with the previous lines but all lyrics websites say it is “wouldn’t time be out to charm you.”  So if that is what he says then my guess is it could be a few things.  First it might be him saying that if you stick it out in a relationship despite having been hurt then time is your friend and works for you.  The other is that he is referring to that old saying, “Time heals all wounds.”]

Sometimes I need some time on my own
[He needs some time to think things over, needs some space]

Sometimes I need some time all alone
[same thing]

Everybody needs some time on their own
[same as other chorus]

Don’t you know you need some time all alone?

And when your fears subside and shadows still remain, oh yeah
[When you get over being afraid of being hurt]

I know that you can love me when there’s no one left to blame
[When you can really trust, I’ll know you really love me]

So never mind the darkness we still can find a way
[This goes back to the whole passion is a flame idea.  The darkness here is that the flame has burned out.  Despite the passion having gone, he says they can still make it]

Nothin’ lasts forever even cold November rain
[He says they can still make it because this lull in their love and passion won’t last forever.  Even those dull, passionless times in a relationship, represented by cold November rain, won’t last.  The November rain is cold because the flame in their relationship has burned out, there’s no heat anymore between them.]

Don’t ya think that you need somebody?
Don’t ya think that you need someone?
Everybody needs somebody
You’re not the only one, you’re not the only one
Repeat 3X

I would also like to add one further note about relationships and November rain.  I decided to look up to see if November was possibly the month when most couples break up.  I thought maybe they had considered this when deciding on November rain rather than October rain or January snow or whatever.

According to various websites, the month when most couples and marriages break up is January.  However, there is an explanation for this.  It says most relationships don’t necessarily start having problems or issues in January.  That is just the month when people take action.

The month when relationships end or at least when people realize it isn’t going to work is November.  Right around Thanksgiving is when things get rough.  People just don’t break up then because they usually decide to think it over and stay together through the holidays.

For those who read my post yesterday, I would also like to say that relationships can’t be fixed with duct tape or a paperclip. I suppose that technically you could hold someone hostage with duct tape but I’m pretty sure that’s a crime and most likely not going to make them change their mind about the relationship.

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